What does it mean…his getting in touch with his old girlfriend/best friend on Tuesday, July 5, 2011? He hasn’t been in touch w her since January…since we’re back together. We were married April 23rd…that morning she txt him…it was the strangest thing. And he still never got back in touch w her. But, now, suddenly, he has decided to reach out. He said I’m what matters, it was us, and me that is important and that he could let that go…yet that doesn’t seem so… I knew it was just a matter of time… Nothing about how I feel is what really matters it seems…he inevitably does what he wants-his way! What am I suppose to think? I will say nothing and just wait and see how far it continues. Or for that matter how our sex life doesn’t exist. And how long that continues! We still haven’t had intercourse…and anything else has stopped dead! This doesn’t make any sense. I honestly don’t know what to think. But he is not interested in sex at all!!! How can this be happening? I think she is way more important to him and he will never loose contact with her! It doesn’t matter that she’s married and has a son…she needs him obviously to fill some void she has with her husband. Which I have to say hasn’t been fair to him all these years. It hasn’t left him or his heart open to ever meet someone else. She was seperated from her husband, they worked together, dated during that seperation, she got back with her husband, and has kept him around all these yrs, and never told her husband-and he’s friends with them all! Well, not really, only really friends with her-but has become a friend to the whole family for what? So they can still remain friends?Not a healthy scenerio. And now…this is really bad for us…because he’s keeping it to himself! A secret from me!!! A secret that he’s back in communication with her, no sexlife between us which equals 0 intimacy…which keeps us at some distance…it’s a recipe for disaster… I’m not sure what to do next. I have tried discussing our sex life…it doesn’t seem to matter! I feel very disillusioned…and I love him dearly. I feel we are headed for big trouble in our marriage if this continues. When he came home on Tuesday he was acting very strange…I’ve mentioned this to him more than once, he says it’s his job. But I felt sure that’s not what it is…now I believe it’s this fact, that he reached out to her that very same day! I think he’s turning to her. Maybe because it’s what he’s used to…her as his confident…but that’s a killer for us if he’s not talking to me about his worries, his job…life and he turns to her! But that’s exactly what he did after we first met…he ran to Vermont…to her. Confided in her for 2 wks and shut me out. And it was about US! It should have been us talking things over trying to figure things out-not him with her! It’s disturbing. And by him reaching out to her…plus he left a winky face…he’s leaving that door opened! Which is unacceptable! He’s making choices here, which are not good choices for this marriage. The choice of contacting her…and for sure no sex life with me! My God! We’re newlyweds for Christ sake! We’re just back together since January, for 6 months after a 17yr split! And only married 21/2 months!!!! I should absolutely be concerned. Please God help us and watch over us. I had to get this out and have noone to talk to about it…so came here. It’s breaking my heart.
